10 October 2014

Domestic Violence Month -- From a House to a Home


When Luther Vandros croons, "…but a house is not a home when the two of us are far apart and one of us has a broken heart," he speaks the truest example of what makes a house a home, what prevents a house from being home.  Can I get a witness?

I am not calling for a witness to swoon when Luther croons, I am calling for the witness of women (and some men) who conjured strength and executed safety to get out of abusive relationships -- some of which shared the same house.  

If you are in an abusive relationship, then your greatest advocate and source to escape to safety is YOU!

In no way am I blaming you for the predicament in which you struggle to survive; nor am I suggesting that you mete violence upon your abuser to get out of the relationship.  What I am saying, however, is that your power to leave begins with equipping yourself with this truth -- you deserve a home.  You deserve safety.  You deserve a peace of mind.  You deserve to make up your mind. You deserve to come and go as you please.  You deserve to reserve long sleeves for winters and stunner shades for summers instead of wearing them as  off season camouflage.

You deserve a house AND a home! 

This month, so many are investing in the first step on The Spectrum of Prevention of domestic violence:  strengthening individual knowledge and skills.  You have advocates up and down the spectrum who take your survival seriously, and perhaps, even personally.  Some of us are advocates for basic human rights.  Others of us are survivors ourselves.  Even those with requiems of fatality, even they, are educators in their epitaphs.  


You are not alone. 
You have the strength, inside and in numbers,
to live in a house that is also a home. 




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